Hair grooming sessions become less tangly for moms and daughters when you use our Softlocs conditioner and pomades. Use the Softlocs as a moisturizer for daily grooming or as a leave-in conditioner after shampoo. Seal with one of our nourishing pomades. Great for all natural […]
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Hey. I know I’ve been missing in action for some months now. I’ve had plenty of life changes and challenges in the last few months, the most notable being my dad’s passing. I was privileged to be there when he transitioned on and I thank God for providing an example of loving parents in my life.
Today is a special day. It is the day of love, February 14th. While thinking about some of the plans that I have scheduled, today I had a chance to reflect on how the love shown and given to me has influenced the person I am today.
While we normally share flowers and candy and sweet things with our mates, I find myself listening to the chorus of voices of those that constantly told me ” you can do it!” when the challenges came. So yes I can rip out that bathroom down to the studs, I can change over my HVAC system from summer to winter, and I can patch, paint, sand, and refinish any and every project I put my mind to, while caring for my kids.
I hope that today you guys are being built up and filled with love to strengthen you for the challenges you face. A little snow, no problem. Let me grab my coat, shovel and boots then add a few pins just to make it look pretty.
Yesterday I sat down with a new fashion magazine and I was reminded of when I was a little girl flipping through my mom’s copies of Essence. On occasion when her stack got too thick, my mom would bring home a couple poster boards and my brothers and I would go through and cut out all of the beautiful chocolate men and women that we liked and taped them on that board. By the time we were done every square inch would be covered in all the many shades and features of beautiful black people. As a child it was natural. Why wouldn’t everyone make a beautiful collage, what else were they doing at home? As an adult I realize the wisdom and beauty in our little craft project.
Today I want to talk about the big chop. Not the one where you cut your relaxer off, the other one. When you decide you like your locs, but after a while (for me it was 8 years), you decide you want a different style.
So in 2009 I cut my locs off. I waited about 4 weeks since my last re-tightening and scheduled the big chop!. I sat in the chair with my eyes closed tight while she did it. I couldn’t believe how light I felt as my locs fell to the floor. I desperately wanted to join the legions of twa’s I was seeing all around me, but when I saw my long locs in a pile on the floor, I couldn’t help but be emotional. “Please don’t cry, because if you start, then I’ll start crying too!”, she said, and we both laughed. I left the salon and purchased a brush, and some big earrings, excited that I could wear any style I wanted now. Then reality set in. I had to style my hair every…single…day.
It was about that time I started to miss being able to run my fingers through my hair on the way to work and look great. My schedule didn’t slow down because of the new baby . I was busy as ever- with work and travel. I wanted my time back. I wanted an easy versatile style. So I called my mom and she started my locs over again.
My first set of locs were well over 500 but I just didn’t want to commit that much time to maintenance.So I made them larger with about 200 locs. Great for me because now I can re-tighten my whole head while the kids watch the Jungle Book movie. I honestly prefer them to be short too.One day, I may install less than 100 to see how that looks on me. Then again I think I might try 500 again with the 3 point pattern.